What is shaping who you are becoming?

Dear Reader,

Last week, I had the privilege of hosting the first Open Table by Rozène, a small dinner gathering centered around conversation, reflection, and the question of who we are becoming.

Around the table sat nine accomplished women, many of whom first came to Rozène through a bag or wallet, but gathered that evening for something entirely different.

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As we shared stories throughout the evening, one thought kept resurfacing.

Success changes us.

Not only through what it gives us, but through what it quietly asks of us.

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Over time, the environments we spend our days in begin to shape us.

The expectations.

The rewards.

The pressures.

The habits required to succeed.

Without realizing it, we adapt.

We become more efficient.

More resilient.

More focused on outcomes.

And while many of these qualities serve us well, how often do we pause to ask a deeper question:

Who am I becoming in the process?

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Not what am I achieving.

Not what am I building.

Not what am I earning.

Who am I becoming?

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Early in the evening, each guest was invited to write down three values that matter most to them and the dream that feels most important in this season of life.

Not goals.

Not accomplishments.

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​Values.

The things we want our lives to reflect.

As the conversations unfolded, we were reminded that the gap between who we are and who we want to become is rarely created overnight.

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It is shaped gradually.

Through small decisions.

Through what we give our attention to.

Through the rhythms we practice repeatedly.

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One simple realization emerged:

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​Whether we realize it or not, we are all becoming someone.

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The question is whether that process is happening by default or by design.

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It certainly challenged me to look more closely at my own calendar.

Because if our values are truly our priorities, where do they appear in our schedules?

Not in our intentions.

Not in our aspirations.

In the way we spend our time.

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Because what occupies space in our days ultimately shapes who we become.

Perhaps that is a question worth sitting with this week.

What is shaping who you are becoming?

And does that direction align with the person you hope to be or were originally designed to be?

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Warmly,

Rozanne